I met my husband in Bathurst NB when I was attending high school, I moved in with him and soon had to quit school to get a job to help with rent. We moved to Ontario where I got pregnant at 19, got married at 20,moved back in NB and had my second child at 21. He decided to move to Vancouver a couple of years later (at the time I didn't know but it was because family was getting to involved in how we ran our life, and he didn't like it) I lived 6 years with him, he worked at muffler shop as a under the car mechanic, drinking everyday and smoking up, parties every weekend, he was terrible with finance, I had bill collectors calling everyday, no food in the fridge but lots of beer. Tired of not having money, I was not allowed to go out, or even have people over when he wasn't there. He would go out to stripper clubs and come home drunk every night and piss the bed. I needed money, so I started watching children in my home when my children started attending school. I made about $80 a week which he took from me, because he told me I had not contributed to rent for so long that I owe him that money. At 30, that was it! I kinda woke up, and told him to get out. I knew I could do better without him. He would laugh and tell me I would take him back because I wasn't capable of living on my own. Well, with my babysitting money and child support I was doing great for a year, then I started going out and dating. He tried everything to bring me down and was getting upset. As soon as he found out I had a boyfriend, he stop paying child support, his excuse was that since I have a boyfriend that the boyfriend can pay for the kids. I still let him have the kids every weekend, I thought I wouldn't stoop to that level, plus, I needed and wanted time alone, I had never had days without kids. He never help at all with the kids (feeding, bathing or even watching them). It didn't bother me but my boyfriend at the time got real upset. He couldn't believe I wasn't trying to get my support money but left him take the kids every weekend. It was such a problem that we did end up by breaking up. After that, I lived in total poverty, went on well fair and got registered with FMEP(Family Maintenance Enforcement Program)
After a year of fighting and arguing with the father about him not paying. Finally, I had enough and decided to move to NB to be among family. He did not like this but couldn't not stop me, as I had sole custody of the children. I had file this when we broke up because he had told me he was going to take my kids away if I left him.
It was very messy at this time, I had to sell all my stuff in my apartment of ten years. I did yard sale every weekend, but nothing sold, I was desperate, the father told me he would help. He took everything that was good, and left the rest of the stuff and I never heard from him for two weeks. By this time I had sent the kids to NB to live with my mother. This was the biggest mistake ever, when well fair found out they cut me off because they said I didn't qualify anymore. I had no choice but leave all my things in the apartment and skipped on the rent. I was going crazy and was so depress. I had to live with my best friend for a month, I was painting rooms for them to pay for my spot on the couch. Meanwhile, FMEP had his driver license withheld, he was really freaking out and called me. He asked me to give him his license back (I was the only one that could lift the withholding) he told me that he would give me a $1000 to help me get back to NB. I agreed but then he said that I had to give him a receipt to show FMEP to get his drivers back. Stupid me I did gave him a receipt without getting the money, he promised that he would give me a $1000 later, but you can probably guess what happen, he never gave me money. My mom who was worried about me bailed me out of BC. I ended up in Moncton, in a duplex beside my sister. Family chipped in and got all furnishing I needed to get back on my feet.
Today, I'm still in the same place, I have the best boyfriend ever. my daughter graduated and soon my son. I'm still enrolled with FMEP and have a long list of action they have taken but it doesn't help if he's got no id or known address.
My son went to stay with him in the summer of 2010, that was a disaster. He had no license, made my son drive all day,he works by driving around collecting scrap metal at muffler shops and recycles it for money. He drives by the FMEP building everyday. He has no ID, lives illegally with a disable girlfriend, no bank account. I worked 3 years at the YMCA daycare and lost that job because of anxiety and depression problems. I worked privately for a family, watching their children. On november 6th my father died, I was out of town caring for my mom and making funeral arrangements, it took to long and I lost this job too. Fell in another depression.
My son went to stay with him in the summer of 2010, that was a disaster. He had no license, made my son drive all day,he works by driving around collecting scrap metal at muffler shops and recycles it for money. He drives by the FMEP building everyday. He has no ID, lives illegally with a disable girlfriend, no bank account. I worked 3 years at the YMCA daycare and lost that job because of anxiety and depression problems. I worked privately for a family, watching their children. On november 6th my father died, I was out of town caring for my mom and making funeral arrangements, it took to long and I lost this job too. Fell in another depression.
At this time I'm on Sick benefits, 10 weeks on a payment of $490 bi-weekly, my rents $700 not including hydro, phone and food for two teenagers(three because I took in my nephew 18, because he was homeless)
Life isn't fair, always said that I was bad luck to myself and people surrounding me. beware!
I'm unemployed at the moment, was gonna try to get a trade...but no money, wanted to go to school, but I can't get a student loan (bad credit)Life isn't fair, always said that I was bad luck to myself and people surrounding me. beware!
What do I want? I want him to be arrested for tax evasion(he did not do his taxes for over 8 yrs) while in jail he should be force to do his taxes, at least I would get his tax returns and GST that he owes me. Honestly I don't think I'll ever see that money, he's a looser.
